Sadje’s Sunday Poser #126 asked if we are emotional or logical. My initial reaction is to say I’m emotional, but taking time to reflect on the question, I think I’m probably a bit of both, depending on circumstances, but my natural tendency will be towards the emotional.
Some characteristics which are associated with emotional people are being sociable, they find it easy to make friends, they are caring and wear their heart on their sleeve. They are vulnerable and could get hurt as they have an emotional reaction to events. There are two examples I can think of which demonstrate my emotional side easily:
- A few years ago our team were involved in a reaccreditation visit to renew the licence for our professional HR courses. There was a lot of effort put into the preparation for the visit and I was heavily involved on the week of the visit (I think the visit lasted 2-3 days). At the end, when we were told they were happy with the visit, I came out of the meeting and burst into tears – I think it was probably the release of the stress knowing that the visit was over.
- In my previous career I was a legal secretary in one of the bigger law firms in Glasgow. We had a new employee join the company so I extended a warm, friendly arm of welcome to help her settle in. We became good friends, spending a lot of time together. However, over time, she made new friends within the company (she had moved into the area so didn’t have any family or friends locally) and as she settled in and her group of friends expanded, it became clear she was distancing herself from me. I was upset and hurt that I was being excluded from activities she was sharing with her new friends. Looking back now, I guess I had served my purpose in helping her settle into the new environment and gave her the space to make her own friends, but it did hurt at the time.
I think the secret, when you’re emotionally-driven like this, is to recognise that you will get hurt, its inevitable, but that we must accept its going to happen or we end up closing ourselves off. I suspect not being able to express or feel our emotions might mean that we harm ourselves. Maybe by accepting the negative side of being emotional and learning how to cope with these emotions, we become stronger, more resilient as we know we can bounce back.
I think the emotional rather than logical is also borne out by the fact that I’m more interested in people/language rather than facts and figures although I think professionally I need to be more logical – teaching analytical thinking etc and the fact that the students need to support their work with evidence.
I think I can be logical but it needs more effort and attention to be successful. However, I need to be careful that when I focus too much on the logical, the emotional gets supressed which stifles my creativity and contributes to stress levels.
I think the freedom of blogging has allowed me to redress the balance between my emotional self and the logic required for my job. Blogging has allowed me to tap into and explore my emotional side more.
In conclusion, I think I use both, but my natural predisposition would be more on the emotional, intuitive side. While I need the logical elements for my job as discussed above, the emotional side probably also helps at work where students will hopefully see me as being approachable and someone they can talk to. I hope I’m empathetic and can put myself in their shoes sometimes. I may still require them to meet deadlines/submission dates, but I can work with them when they have problems to help keep them on track.
This year, working on my blog has given me an outlet for the emotional, creative side and overall I’d say I feel happier, more balanced and less stressed. There is definitely a benefit to embracing my emotional side.
What about you, are you more emotional or logical? Leave your answers in the comments. In the meantime, its logical to sign up to my blog